Get it of my chest

Amber · Member User Online: Joined: 28 Sep 2007 Posts: 381

I just need to share this , though i cant go into detail.

The past 10days me, hubby ,my boys have been going through pure hell,we are all suffering mentally, we were all gathered last wednseday (ttook time to get the boys all together)and spent hours talking.

We have all cried so many tears, everything we have worked for could be gone in a a matter of months. It has devasted my boys, though they have been wonderful in trying to help us, not leaving us alone ,either by visists or on the phone 4/5 times a day.

All this could have been avoided but for someone who at this time i could quite willingly murder for the stress, & menatal anguish they have put us all through .My boys are broken, me i've broken down but need to help my kids.

We have had lots of support from extended family,but it is in the hands of god now.

Xmas is really out the window for now, & i'm stopping there before i say something i should,nt.

Sorry just need to let this, out yet again and parents have listened to me do that soo many times.

redhead · Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 7:48 pm Post subject:

Oh sis now were your at and were all here for you and family yea the boys have been great , tomorrow the awful times will be over stay posititve.

Thumper · Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 7:50 pm Post subject:

Amber I hope everything works out, I dont really know what to say as I dont know what's wrong but am sending hugs your way ((((AMBER)))) xx
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Selious5 · Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 8:24 pm Post subject:

OH Amber I am so sorry that you feel so upset. What can I say or do to help here? Just remember that we all care

Lots of love

and ((((((((hugs

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Serenity · Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 7:40 am Post subject:

((((((((((((((Amber)))))))))))))) I feel so helpless, not knowing what your problem is, and worse still knowing I can't help you

I really hope that whatever you are going through, gets resolved quickly, so you can live in peace again. Just remember, no matter what happens, you are still together as a family, and you have the rest of your lives to look forward to. You are the authors of the next chapter, not anyone else. XXXXXXX
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northern lass · Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 11:54 am Post subject:

oh amber, i too feel so helpless with regards to your unhappiness as i know nothing of your situation. you say you have broken down but have to remain strong for your boys, this is so admirable of you, however we all need to release and vent our feelings at some point. i too have been through some really bad times, (noone of course can compare themselves or their experiences with what you are all going through as this is a situation you prefer to remain private).
in the past i have said nothing of the misery and unhappiness which i was going through at the time, only for it to make me very ill. supressing these kinds of emotions can lead to even further misery as it may affect your health and wellbeing.
remain strong, both as a person and also as a family, but allow yourselves to express your feelings. show a united front and, as impossible as it sounds, endeavour to remain positive.
i wish i could help you more, and if you ever wish to talk privately or need to bend an ear, dont hesistate to pm me. i am sure other people on the forum feel the same. best wishes hun' x x x

(((((((((((((AMBER AND FAMILY)))))))))))

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Amber · Member User Online: Joined: 28 Sep 2007 Posts: 381

thanks everyone for your kind words,

The dreaded day was yesterday, and avery long day,
Anyhow we had a phone call last night,and it seems this has now ended , the person that phoned said she felt soooo sorry for us all and felt we have suffered enough and would have been unfair to make us wait any longer,we have been given an unofficial 99% "it's over", but have to wait till next week for the 100% "it's over" from the top boss,

The relief is enourmous and the tears flowed again but this time tears of happines, but the damage has been done and we now have to re-build our lives and trust again.

Next week we will get the xmas shopping back on track, and put this terrible year behind us.

Roll on next year.

northern lass · Posted: Thu Nov 15, 2007 11:51 am Post subject:

hi amber. so pleased to hear your news, even though, as you mentioned it is 99% positive, i am sure its as well as over and done with. maybe now you and your family can start to rebuild your lives together and have a fresh start. there are some malicious people out there who only gain THEIR happiness by ruining someone else's.
i imagine your sense of overwhelming relief must be a god send to you all. its really good to hear that you all took a little time out to have a good old cry, i bet you felt a liitle better after.

keep your chin up sweetie, and as you indicated, start looking forward to a wonderful family christmas, god knows you all deserve it.

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Selious5 · Posted: Thu Nov 15, 2007 12:06 pm Post subject:

Glad to hear that everything is more or less cleared up for you. Whatever it was you all sound as if you have come through a dreadful time and I do hope that you can get everything back on track now. I aways feel that a good cry when needed is the best thing that you can do - gets rid of a lot of emotions and tension that builds up. At least now everything seems a little more postive for you.

Love

and (((((hugs)))))

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Serenity · Posted: Thu Nov 15, 2007 3:36 pm Post subject:

(((((((((((((Amber))))))))))) I've sent you a pm, to convey all my best wishes for you and your family. Put this behind, and after next week, look forward to a bright new future, knowing the love you all share for each other will see you through anything XXX

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