Get it of my chest

Amber · Get it of my chest

I just need to share this , though i cant go into detail.

The past 10days me, hubby ,my boys have been going through pure hell,we are all suffering mentally, we were all gathered last wednseday (ttook time to get the boys all together)and spent hours talking.

We have all cried so many tears, everything we have worked for could be gone in a a matter of months. It has devasted my boys, though they have been wonderful in trying to help us, not leaving us alone ,either by visists or on the phone 4/5 times a day.

All this could have been avoided but for someone who at this time i could quite willingly murder for the stress, & menatal anguish they have put us all through .My boys are broken, me i've broken down but need to help my kids.

We have had lots of support from extended family,but it is in the hands of god now.

Xmas is really out the window for now, & i'm stopping there before i say something i should,nt.

Sorry just need to let this, out yet again and parents have listened to me do that soo many times.

redhead

Oh sis now were your at and were all here for you and family yea the boys have been great , tomorrow the awful times will be over stay posititve.

Thumper

Amber I hope everything works out, I dont really know what to say as I dont know what's wrong but am sending hugs your way ((((AMBER)))) xx

Selious5

OH Amber I am so sorry that you feel so upset. What can I say or do to help here? Just remember that we all care

Lots of love

and ((((((((hugs

)))))))

Serenity

((((((((((((((Amber)))))))))))))) I feel so helpless, not knowing what your problem is, and worse still knowing I can't help you

I really hope that whatever you are going through, gets resolved quickly, so you can live in peace again. Just remember, no matter what happens, you are still together as a family, and you have the rest of your lives to look forward to. You are the authors of the next chapter, not anyone else. XXXXXXX

northern lass

oh amber, i too feel so helpless with regards to your unhappiness as i know nothing of your situation. you say you have broken down but have to remain strong for your boys, this is so admirable of you, however we all need to release and vent our feelings at some point. i too have been through some really bad times, (noone of course can compare themselves or their experiences with what you are all going through as this is a situation you prefer to remain private).
in the past i have said nothing of the misery and unhappiness which i was going through at the time, only for it to make me very ill. supressing these kinds of emotions can lead to even further misery as it may affect your health and wellbeing.
remain strong, both as a person and also as a family, but allow yourselves to express your feelings. show a united front and, as impossible as it sounds, endeavour to remain positive.
i wish i could help you more, and if you ever wish to talk privately or need to bend an ear, dont hesistate to pm me. i am sure other people on the forum feel the same. best wishes hun' x x x

(((((((((((((AMBER AND FAMILY)))))))))))

Amber

thanks everyone for your kind words,

The dreaded day was yesterday, and avery long day,
Anyhow we had a phone call last night,and it seems this has now ended , the person that phoned said she felt soooo sorry for us all and felt we have suffered enough and would have been unfair to make us wait any longer,we have been given an unofficial 99% "it's over", but have to wait till next week for the 100% "it's over" from the top boss,

The relief is enourmous and the tears flowed again but this time tears of happines, but the damage has been done and we now have to re-build our lives and trust again.

Next week we will get the xmas shopping back on track, and put this terrible year behind us.

Roll on next year.

northern lass

hi amber. so pleased to hear your news, even though, as you mentioned it is 99% positive, i am sure its as well as over and done with. maybe now you and your family can start to rebuild your lives together and have a fresh start. there are some malicious people out there who only gain THEIR happiness by ruining someone else's.
i imagine your sense of overwhelming relief must be a god send to you all. its really good to hear that you all took a little time out to have a good old cry, i bet you felt a liitle better after.

keep your chin up sweetie, and as you indicated, start looking forward to a wonderful family christmas, god knows you all deserve it.

Selious5

Glad to hear that everything is more or less cleared up for you. Whatever it was you all sound as if you have come through a dreadful time and I do hope that you can get everything back on track now. I aways feel that a good cry when needed is the best thing that you can do - gets rid of a lot of emotions and tension that builds up. At least now everything seems a little more postive for you.

Love

and (((((hugs)))))

Serenity

(((((((((((((Amber))))))))))) I've sent you a pm, to convey all my best wishes for you and your family. Put this behind, and after next week, look forward to a bright new future, knowing the love you all share for each other will see you through anything XXX

Thumper

Hi Amber I hope you and all of your family are feeling better now, Hope everything is going better for you all, Heres to a better year in 2008 for all of you xxxxxxx

Amber

It's over, yippee got confirmation today, and the person who caused all this is now facing the consequeces of the lies they told SERVES THEM RIGHT. I hope they go through the hell wev'e had to endure . not the family though they don't deserve this just that 1 person

Our lives can now get back on track.

Thanks for all your messages ,much appriciated guys,.

wozza

Thats fantastic news amber whatever i was it was definatly getting you all down but now the stress can drain away and leave room for fun and laughter at christmas time , and because of what has happened im sure that as a family you will all pull together to make this one of the best chritmases ever
Have a great time
and remember what goes around comes around the nasty person will hopefull get bird flu from there xmas turkey and suffer immensly lol i will be keeping my fingers crossed for that one to happen

Serenity

lol nice thinking Trace! *reminds self not to cross THAT one pmsl*

Selious5

Really happy that things have worked out for you Amber and the family. Now you can enjoy your Christmas and the festive season with such a weight of your shoulders.

What a relief you must all feel

redhead

told you sis it would be ok never in a million years believed the accusation you held the family together and supported each other you can build on the the future now ,knowing it was all lies from one persons sick mind , I hope the person who is responsible is caught and punished accordingly , I do feel for the person who made the accusation as it has obviously ruined there life .

this I feel is a warning to every decent human being that at any time in your life you could be wrongly named as a perpertrator ,,,,the truth always comes out in the end .

Memph1s

i dont know what you went through but i do know its horrible when you are accused of something you clearly didnt do. i hope the person who did this to you suffers for what they did. i do kinda believe in karma so i know they will get whats coming to them. hope it doesnt take too much time or effort to get back to normal. good luck for the future *hugs*

Amber

Thanks guy's , udate the person is now being charged for false accusations , serves it right.

northern lass

one word here i think that suits.....JUSTICE

{{{{{extra hugs of joy for amber and family}}}}}}}

Serenity

Brilliant news Amber, glad it's resolved as far as it can be ((((((((Amber&family))))))))

Thumper

How are things now Amber ? are you all getting back on track ? I hope so