chibi_steph18
|
Love advice!!?Ok, well, idk if you all remember but I posted about a guy one time that I liked and etc etc..Well, we're dating now, but now I feel kinda bad cause I still feel the same as before, but he seems to have grown into deeper feelings for me. He thinks he loves me, and I know I don't love him. I don't believe he loves me..I mean, I believe that he believes it, but I don't believe that he knows what he is talking about. I'm cynical that way nowadays. So I should probably tell him I don't feel the same way he does, right? That's probably best so I don't hurt him more than I have to, right?
On another note...my best friend just told me they like me more than a friend!! (I'm just too much for these folks to handle  lmao, jk) The only thing is...it's a she, and she is a lesbian. So I'm kinda like..what do I do with this?! I guess it's a good thing that she told me and also added that she doesn't want us to be more than friends, she just thought I should know how she felt. So I don't have to be like 'I'm not gonna date you...' but still, I feel like I should say something to her, but idk what. Gah, I wish when you get new problems, you can choose which of your other ones to drop, cause I totally need to get chemical engineering class off my back, lol.
|
crazyguy24
|
You really need to let this guy know that you dont feel the same way and you shouldnt be feeling pushed into anything. Just tell him how it is, he may find it hard to come to terms with at first but its better to get it out the way now than later, when he could end up hating you for it!
So say you are only dating? so I take it you have not known this guy very long. I would be cautious if he is saying he already loves you at this stage.
|
chibi_steph18
|
I've known him for a few years..we've dated twice before this. Yeah, I'm pretty cautious about him saying that he loves me, and yeah, I don't wanna hurt him, but you're probably right about the waiting being bad.
|
crazyguy24
|
Ive been in the position myself where ive been hurt because the person left it about 6 months before they told me that they didnt feel the same way. 6 months too late really, the blow wouldnt have been so hard if she told me sooner or straight away. Im sure he will be alot more forgiving if you tell him soon 
|
chibi_steph18
|
Thanks 
|
knewlove
|
| chibi_steph18 wrote: | | So I should probably tell him I don't feel the same way he does, right? That's probably best so I don't hurt him more than I have to, right? |
I think you answered your own question Steph. You know deep inside what is best for you. You just need to do the right thing And that my dear, that is where maturity and wisdom come from...I know it can be difficult and hard...My advice to you is to follow your gut instincts as only YOU know what is right for you.
|
Serenity
|
I think you have answered yourself along with the others. At your age everything seems way more complicated than it actually is. Think how you felt before you asked him out, all the trepidation, the battling, then you let him know how you felt. Now you're away at college, happily getting on with things, he now says he loves you? Maybe the situation and the distance are influential factors within your relationship, more than you realise. No matter what, be honest thats the best thing you can do. Just going back to your other friend, if she didn't want to take it any further then she wouldn't have told you how she felt about you in the first place. If you're not interested in anything other than friendship, make that clear to her too Good luck and let us know how things go xxxxxx
|
Amber
|
agree with the others you must tell him how you feel, put the ball in your court as if it was the other way round , how gutted would you feel if you loved him but he didn,t love you -----wouldn't you rather be told early on rather then leaving it for months.. Once the upset is over you can remain friends.
I wouldn't worry about the girl, she is just letting you know how she feel's ,as long as you make it clear you are not interessted in a woman ,but value her freindship i'm sure you can become the best of freinds.
|
redhead
|
well it's all been said really , tell him how you feel coz it hurts like hell to think there more to the relationship then to be told diff believe me I know !!!!! as for the girl be honest with her and let her know you HAVE NO PROBS being her friend if she can acceptt friendship that so be it rem honesty is the best policy !!! sorry caps .
|
chibi_steph18
|
Thanks, guys!
|
crazyguy24
|
Let us know how it goes Steph.
|
|
|
|