chibi_steph18
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Suicidal tendenciesOk, I have a friend, my brother's girlfriend whom I love like a sister, but..she has a pretty rough life, I won't go into it here. But when she gets depressed, she cuts herself...Lately, me and my brother have been a few of the only things keeping her from doing it..And for a while, she finally stopped thinking about killing herself to get out of her problems. She lives in another state, so we can't see her, so when she decided to run away from home, we knew there wasn't gonna be anything we could do to stop her since she is so stubborn and determined...So rather than sitting idly by with the knowledge that she was gonna run away from home with no plan and no money, I tried to help her. (I would have told an authority figure, but we really had no way to get in touch with anyone since she lives so far away.) By helping her, I mean giving her pointers..since she is so sheltered. I gave her advice here and there, and strongly advised against going anywhere if she had no safe place to run to..cause thats just nuts! With all the crazies out there, she wouldn't have lasted long on her own on the streets. Anyways, I digress...Tonight, I got an email from her..telling me she was sorry, she thinks everyone is better off if she didn't exist, etc etc..she told me to tell my brother that she loved him and that I was the best 'sister' she'd ever had..and that she'd make sure to leave a note so that someone will come explain to me and my brother (over the phone or internet) what happened...I don't want her to do something crazy, but I don't put it past her...and I don't know what set her off this time, but she wouldn't talk to me about it earlier so I just hugged her and told her I love her..man..I think I'm gonna cry...I don't want her to die! I hope she comes to her senses..
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Serenity
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Ohhh ((((((((((Steph))))))))))) thats really unfair of your friend to put you in such a position!! So you're sat there miles away from her worrying when you are going to get a phonecall or visit to say your friend succeeded  She really is calling for help Steph, especially to tell you BEFORE she does anything, but what are you to do??? She really does need professional help too by the sounds of things, young people heads get so messed up and screwy, it's really a hard time and they need all the support they can get. But laying it on your lap all those miles away when you can't help is really unfair. I don't know what to say Steph, if she really is determined to end it all, then nothing will stop her. On the other hand, if it is just an attention thing, then all you can do is be there for her. I would say, end your friendship now and be hard with her, but if she is fragile enough to do something, then you'd always blame yourself, so I wont tell you to do that. Even though I would have to for my own sanity ...have you read the other threads of suicidal tendancies and threats?
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redhead
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Gosh what a terrible thing to deal with and her being so far away , does your brother have no idea where she's gone? are their any other family or friends who might now where she is ? the state that she lives in could you not contact the police and inform that you have concerns for her surely they must have some sort of info on ppl like social security numbers , medical forms , it's really diff to offer advice as I don't know how the system works in the states, maybe homeless shelters could they not check them out , Steph sorry to ask but is she doing drugs ? maybe you should inform the police they will know suppliers in her area and perhaps keep an eye out for her , I know and understand you don't want her to get into trouble but sometimes it's the only way to help ppl .
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chibi_steph18
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I haven't heard anything today..so idk whats going on..I doubt she does drugs, she isn't the type..despite the depression, she is pretty innocent..she's a sheltered rich girl from another country, so yeah..I think thats why I think of her as a little sister, cause I keep having to teach her things, and she's just so cute, lol..but if she ran away, her parents will be informing the authorities. Yeah, Debs, I understand what you mean about ending the friendship for your own sanity. I have so many friends like this nowadays that at times I find myself thinking I'd be better off just cutting off contact with everyone I know except my immediate family. I probably couldn't ever see myself doing that, though..hopefully I'll know something more as the day goes on.
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Serenity
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Lets hope you do, and keep your chin up and please don't start thinking like them, don't let them bring you down 
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chibi_steph18
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Nah, I have only been that depressed once and I don't imagine ever going back there again as long as I can help it. But my friend is ok! Her friend/butler Henry found her..and got her to stop before anything bad happened...turns out, she was attacked by this guy from her school, and he tried to rape her..he didn't, Henry caught him and turned him over to the police, but my friend couldn't get past the fact that it happened and she also felt like she was betraying my brother..I talked to her yesterday and she sounds like she'll be ok.
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Serenity
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Thank goodness A weight off your mind eh Steph!
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redhead
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pleased she's been found , perhaps in a while why not suggest to her about getting some counselling espec after the attempted rape , just a thought .
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Serenity
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Great idea Julie, the poor girl needs help from someone.
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Thumper
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Glad to hear she is OK Steph
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chibi_steph18
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Ok..first my sister, then my friend, and now my brother. Last night my brother was messaging everyone his own "goodbye, cruel world" posts...Honestly, I don't think he did it, but I won't know until tomorrow...but gosh, it's like everyone around me just keeps on wanting to kill themselves! And he was saying something about no one ever talking to him unless they have nothing better to do..and a few hours before, he was talking to me about how I tell our friend Josh more stuff than I tell him. But it's not like that..I tried to explain to him, I don't tell anyone anything more than anyone else. I tell some folks some things, and some folks other things...I never tell anyone everything. It's my business and I don't like telling everyone everything..but it made me kinda feel like maybe I triggered something in him or something. I don't know anymore....
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Serenity
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Omg Steph, what are they like? !! fgs it seems more of a trend to just flippantly say youre gonna end it all, especially online, its SO easy. Drama Queens/Kings the lot of them. You must be more than a little p*****d off at them all. They obvisouly dont realise the effect it has on people, or perhaps they do. Attention seekers in my opinion I'm afraid, once again they'll all grow up one day...hopefully!
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chibi_steph18
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I agree, I think they are attention-seeking and they probably think people don't care when they tell them anyway. Yep, I'm extremely not happy about any of them right now...but I hope he's ok, all the same.
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chibi_steph18
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*sigh* My day went crazy after i came back from class. My brother was gonna commit suicide, and texted our friends Nina and Jess, who then told me and we were calling people like crazy to find him, then he called and said he wasn't doing it, and he was ok...then I told his girlfriend about it, and she and me and Jess and Nina were talking and she said if he did it, she would too (this is the girl I wrote about before), and Nina and Jess got pissed at her and were yelling how stupid that is, and she got mad and yelled back. This started a huge fight that lasted for like an hour, and my brothers girlfriend was threatening to get them arrested and stuff, and they were like 'bring it, you cant do that' and then later..she calmed down and wanted to apologize to them but they weren't gonna have it..then they started telling me how i make excuses for her and how can I be friends with a person like that and stuff. And it struck me that I make excuses all the time..and it..idk, really got to me I guess *shrug* anywho, so later lewis' (he's my bro) girlfriend tried to kill herself..cause..well, idk..but she did, and its not the first time she's done it, as you know..and now..everything is just crazy *shrug* I don't know anymore.
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Serenity
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Fgs Steph, poor you stuck in the middle of all this insanity! When you say she tried to kill herself, how do you mean? What exactly did she do?
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chibi_steph18
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I was told that she tried to drink rat poison. Honestly, I have had my doubts..as to whether or not she is doing these things, or just setting us all up..but..I dunno. I like to think she's not the type of person to do that to her friends..
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chibi_steph18
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Aaaaaand back to my brother's girlfriend. Me and my brother both incurred her wrath because she isnt a 'morning person' and she got mad and told us she wasnt talking to us for a while. So I said fine, cause I didn't want to talk to her. I was mad because she didn't eat anything at all yesterday and nearly fainted...and then she was talking to my brother, and he was asking her why she didn't want to talk to him..she just kept telling him 'I just don't think we should talk for a while' and the next thing I know, her butler is IMing us, saying she is on her way to the hospital! Like "OMG! WTF?!" So now she's stabbed herself...but I just heard she is gonna be ok and all...and back later on today. Sometimes I wonder if all this is for real..you know? I mean, we only hear this through the internet conversations...she could be sitting there pretending to be other people, you know? I don't want to believe that..but sometimes things don't add up.
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redhead
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Steph I don't know what's going on here but something niggles me and tells me that your strings are being well and truly pulled !!!!! I think it's time you said " I'm at college I can't take anymore of these threats ,have my own issues to deal with get some proffessional help leave me alone "" before you know it you will be well and truly stressed out and your studies will suffer , DON'T let it !!!! sometimes it is better to be tuff .
It's diff I understand that but think of yourself !!
best wishes Red
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Serenity
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Tbh Steph I think its all *BS*! No one stabs themselves or take rat poison fgs, it sounds like someones away with the fairies and making it all up. Especially if this is all going on online, tell them to go take a flying leap youre not interested anymore with their mindgames. What do you have to lose? if they are going to do it properly anyway? Save yourself the grief and tell them they are on their own, and do it TODAY !
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chibi_steph18
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Yeah, I don't think I can take it anymore..next time I see her, we're in for a long talk.
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chibi_steph18
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Ok, since last time, I've deleted her account and blocked her from my MSN. Because her "friends" are harassing me and my brother. I'm gonna put their names in quotes..cause I'm not quite convinced these people exist outside of her mind...First her 'butler' tells me that she is hurt, cause her parents beat her up for singing at school. That in itself is screwy, but since there was a possibility she was hurt, I wasn't gonna say so. I was pissed at him though because it's common sense to go to a hospital when you get hurt like that, right? He said he couldn't take her because her parents didn't want him to. If someone is hurt, you just do it, ya know? Damn what the person who did the hurting wants. But nooo. I told him that and then her friend "Angie" got online and was yelling at me, saying "What the eff is wrong with you??" and stuff, and I'm like 'wtf?' cause I didn't do anything. She started telling me to stay away from Z and to tell my brother that, so I told her to tell him herself and she could..well, expletive expletive, lol. And so I blocked her. Later on I unblocked in case she was gone...and this guy "Joey" IMed me and said something like "I'm stealing her from your brother" and "I know you guys don't really care about her" and he was pissing me off, and then he was telling me this completely unbelievable story about someone trying to drown her at the mall. I was like 'who the hell would try to drown someone at a mall, then conveniently get away before you got back to her, all with no one seeing it or putting up a fuss?' And our friend Joanne got a different story from "Angie", who told her that Z was drowning in her pool at home. Honestly, these people (or this girl) must think I'm effin stupid! Gah! So I told Z later when she got online...if she had ever not been...that if her friends keep harassing me, I'm blocking her account and if she wants to let them run her life (because they said they were gonna keep her from everyone, blah blah blah) then go ahead, but I wasn't gonna have anything to do with any of them anymore. Today they are harassing my brother...Another thing, my brother and I called her house to talk to "Angie" and someone (not Z) answered, and told us we had the wrong number. Why would someone who has no idea what's going on with all this not let us talk to her, unless someone named Angie wasn't even there? I guess she could have told them to not let anyone know she was there...but still, it's pretty suspicious.
This is some straight up soap opera crap, huh? Totally nuts.
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Serenity
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They should sell the script fgs Steph it sounds like Dallas or something! So far fetched, how do they expect to keep coming out with this crap and get away with it? It's laughable, and you did the right thing blocking them, just KEEP them blocked hunni!!! Mind f****ers the lot of em! (the imaginary ones too lol)
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redhead
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Well Steph I'm totally confused , butler ,parents, z, angie etc etc , keep them blocked let them play thier silly childish games with someone else !! are you sure their not locked up in some mental home if not why not !!!!! get tuff girl you don;t need there crap or your brother your both better then that !!
takr care of num 1 YOU
BEST WISHES
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chibi_steph18
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Yeah, it is pretty confusing, but it's certainly a lot easier to not have to deal with it all. They're staying blocked, lol.
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chibi_steph18
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OOOK, here is an update. My brother told Z yesterday that he wanted to break up. Z spent like an hour (Josh, Lewis, Z, and I were all on the phone) begging him not to do it, he kept saying 'idk idk idk' and me and Josh just kinda sat there..listening..lending helpful advice when appropriate. Anywho. I get back from my exam and my sister Britney calls me and says that Angie (Z's friend) was telling Lewis and Josh that Z was dead. Finito. Done for. Lewis was upset and crying and everything and so his mom gets on the phone (his mom is cool) and starts asking Angie what's going on, and Angie starts yelling at her! I'm like O.O at this and Britney says that her mom was real calm and telling her 'I am his mother and whatever gets him upset is my business, little girl, so you can shut the f*** up and tell me what's going on.' She so totally pwned her! I wish I could have been on the phone to hear it...but anywho. So Britney called later to talk to Angie herself cause she was pretty angry too, and Z answers the phone! So Britney is like 'this can't be Z, they told us Z was dead' but Lewis talked to her and confirmed it...so Angie was lying her face off and Z isn't dead. I think they are still broken up though. Props to Lewis' mom for telling off Angie, woot woot.
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knewlove
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ahhhhhhh Steph the trials and tribulations of being young!  Glad everything worked out tho 
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chibi_steph18
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Psh, my life was never quite THAT troubling. Mostly just happened to the folks around me..hm..am I a curse?! Lol, nah. Couldn't be. I'm too cool 
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