MissProd
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Why should I be depressedHi there, Miss P here. Yes, from that nasty Chronicles place. They say talking is good for the soul, so here goes.
My hubby has a heart of gold and always a cheery word for everyone, he always makes me larf. He can be the life and soul of any party. He does all this and all the cooking as well from a wheelchair. You see 4 years ago he was diagnosed with Parkinson's, then he developed Osteo Arthritis in his hips and kees. This put him in a wheelchair. Then January this year he got Lymphodema in his legs, all this and he takes 30 odd tablets a day. And he still refuses to give up life. In fact he's more of a larf now than he was 4 years ago. My point? Well why, when I see someone like him struck down in his prime, carry on with life as though nothing has happened; why should I be so depressed. Everything else is fine. We're closer now than we've ever been. Maybe I can see my own mortality in some way, maybe his courage to carry on with life makes me humble in some way, I don't know. I'm not overly depressed, just down.
Your thoughts would be apprectiated, thanx for listening.
Miss P
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Serenity
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I think it's reading a story like yours, that puts everything into perspective. You and he has had more to cope with than anyone should have in a whole lifetime yet alone in such young years ! But it's amazing how the more that's thrown at you, to bring you down, the higher you reach for. The human spirit is a wonderful and complex thing, and shows what fighters we are!
It must be really hard for you, you must feel cheated in some ways, and it must be hard not to feel pity, but how could you when he has such a positive attitude towards life!! Disabilities can be overcome, and as long as he still has his brilliant mind what more could you want  The mind is what makes the person, not their physical abilities.
Best wishes to you both and big hugs,(((((((MissP & Seymour)))))
P.S. I can't believe theres another man who cooks!!!! I seriously need to trade my hubby in lol.
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northern lass
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wow.....i really wasn't expecting this. its amazing how you percieve a person to be then realise you are totally wrong.
seymour appears to have such a positive outlook to life and seems to have grasped his disability/illness by the balls and decided that it will not get the better of him. his personality more than shows this!
you however, imo, may unconsciously be 'waiting' for seymour to come down, you know, drop what you may feel is a facade, an act from him. and perhaps wont allow yourself to drop your guard as you want to remain strong for him.
at the end of the day we are all human and have good days and bad days, ups and downs, but what really matters is that you obviously love each other to bits, the very fact that you feel able to share your feelings with us speaks volumes about your feelings for your husband.
dont beat yourself up about something that is out of your control, simply continue to thrive on your very strong marriage. i wish you all the very best. x  
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MissProd
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Thank you so so much for those kind words. They say a problem shared is a problem halved, well they've certainly been halved today. I feel a great weight has been lifted from my mind. I've taken all your advice onboard and will certainly change my attitude towards life from now on.
Thanx once again. It's so nice to know there are people out there who really do care.
A Much Happier Miss P
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Serenity
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You're so right its greatttt to get things off your chest and share with others who care. I'v always worn my heart on my sleeve and never minded sharing my inner thoughts with people, I'm really glad it's helped you MissP Not only that, it helps others too when reading these posts, and at the end of the day, we are all the same, with the same worries and fears even if they are about different things 
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Selious5
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What more can I say that the others haven't already said effectively except to add that I admire both of you for the courage and fortitude that you show. A determination and a love that is strong enogh to carry you both through the trials and tribulations that life has thrown at you. We have such a caring and friendly crowd of folks on here and if we can help in any way by just listening please feel free
((((((hugs)))))  to you both
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wozza
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Oh my it seems you have such alot to get your head around Mrs P and if you are having a down day i don't think that is a surprise, It is obviousto us all how much you love your husband and any one in love will know that facing the fact that we are mortal and won't always be together is a very heartbreaking thing to think about. But you are together and very happy it seems so just accept your having a low day tomorrow will be better and with your happy chappy i'm sure the world will seem brighter tomorrow 
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Amber
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jsut read your post and cant really add anymore to what has been said, the love you have for hubby certainly comes through, and for feeling depressed why not your human after all. sending you hugs .
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MissProd
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Thanx once again you've all made me feel a whole lot better about myself. I feel I could take on the world right now. Seymour's a bit under the weather at the moment and is taking some time off. He's given me the reins to the forum for a few days. (oh God!)
Thanks once again.
Miss P (now jumping about like a school kid).
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Thumper
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Morning MissP, glad everyone has made you feel better, And I hope Seymour is feeling better soon, send all of our best wishes to him and tell him we hope to see him on here soon,( and dont get too tired jumping around will you ) Big hug 
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Serenity
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As long as you aren't jumping around on HIM lol
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Selious5
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Hi MissP - to you both -
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Seymour
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Having read what the wife put I must admit i had no idea she felt this way, but thanks to all you kind words, we sat and chatted and sorted things out.
Thank you again from the heart of my bo.......sorry .........bottom of my heart.
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Amber
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your welcome , talking does the power of good ,
big hugs coming to you both
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