Suicidal tendencies

chibi_steph18 · Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 3:10 am Post subject: Suicidal tendencies

Ok, I have a friend, my brother's girlfriend whom I love like a sister, but..she has a pretty rough life, I won't go into it here. But when she gets depressed, she cuts herself...Lately, me and my brother have been a few of the only things keeping her from doing it..And for a while, she finally stopped thinking about killing herself to get out of her problems. She lives in another state, so we can't see her, so when she decided to run away from home, we knew there wasn't gonna be anything we could do to stop her since she is so stubborn and determined...So rather than sitting idly by with the knowledge that she was gonna run away from home with no plan and no money, I tried to help her. (I would have told an authority figure, but we really had no way to get in touch with anyone since she lives so far away.) By helping her, I mean giving her pointers..since she is so sheltered. I gave her advice here and there, and strongly advised against going anywhere if she had no safe place to run to..cause thats just nuts! With all the crazies out there, she wouldn't have lasted long on her own on the streets. Anyways, I digress...Tonight, I got an email from her..telling me she was sorry, she thinks everyone is better off if she didn't exist, etc etc..she told me to tell my brother that she loved him and that I was the best 'sister' she'd ever had..and that she'd make sure to leave a note so that someone will come explain to me and my brother (over the phone or internet) what happened...I don't want her to do something crazy, but I don't put it past her...and I don't know what set her off this time, but she wouldn't talk to me about it earlier so I just hugged her and told her I love her..man..I think I'm gonna cry...I don't want her to die! I hope she comes to her senses..

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Serenity · Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 6:57 am Post subject:

Ohhh ((((((((((Steph))))))))))) thats really unfair of your friend to put you in such a position!! So you're sat there miles away from her worrying when you are going to get a phonecall or visit to say your friend succeeded

She really is calling for help Steph, especially to tell you BEFORE she does anything, but what are you to do??? She really does need professional help too by the sounds of things, young people heads get so messed up and screwy, it's really a hard time and they need all the support they can get. But laying it on your lap all those miles away when you can't help is really unfair. I don't know what to say Steph, if she really is determined to end it all, then nothing will stop her. On the other hand, if it is just an attention thing, then all you can do is be there for her. I would say, end your friendship now and be hard with her, but if she is fragile enough to do something, then you'd always blame yourself, so I wont tell you to do that. Even though I would have to for my own sanity

...have you read the other threads of suicidal tendancies and threats?
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redhead · Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 6:29 pm Post subject:

Gosh what a terrible thing to deal with and her being so far away , does your brother have no idea where she's gone? are their any other family or friends who might now where she is ? the state that she lives in could you not contact the police and inform that you have concerns for her surely they must have some sort of info on ppl like social security numbers , medical forms , it's really diff to offer advice as I don't know how the system works in the states, maybe homeless shelters could they not check them out , Steph sorry to ask but is she doing drugs ? maybe you should inform the police they will know suppliers in her area and perhaps keep an eye out for her , I know and understand you don't want her to get into trouble but sometimes it's the only way to help ppl .

chibi_steph18 · Posted: Wed Apr 02, 2008 6:49 pm Post subject:

I haven't heard anything today..so idk whats going on..I doubt she does drugs, she isn't the type..despite the depression, she is pretty innocent..she's a sheltered rich girl from another country, so yeah..I think thats why I think of her as a little sister, cause I keep having to teach her things, and she's just so cute, lol..but if she ran away, her parents will be informing the authorities. Yeah, Debs, I understand what you mean about ending the friendship for your own sanity. I have so many friends like this nowadays that at times I find myself thinking I'd be better off just cutting off contact with everyone I know except my immediate family. I probably couldn't ever see myself doing that, though..hopefully I'll know something more as the day goes on.
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Sometimes I don't think birds are really talking to each other. They are just making fun of police sirens.
-Stephanie

Serenity · Posted: Thu Apr 03, 2008 7:55 am Post subject:

Lets hope you do, and keep your chin up and please don't start thinking like them, don't let them bring you down

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chibi_steph18 · Posted: Thu Apr 03, 2008 1:47 pm Post subject:

Nah, I have only been that depressed once and I don't imagine ever going back there again as long as I can help it. But my friend is ok! Her friend/butler Henry found her..and got her to stop before anything bad happened...turns out, she was attacked by this guy from her school, and he tried to rape her..he didn't, Henry caught him and turned him over to the police, but my friend couldn't get past the fact that it happened and she also felt like she was betraying my brother..I talked to her yesterday and she sounds like she'll be ok.
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Sometimes I don't think birds are really talking to each other. They are just making fun of police sirens.
-Stephanie

Serenity · Posted: Fri Apr 04, 2008 7:56 am Post subject:

Thank goodness

A weight off your mind eh Steph!
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redhead · Posted: Fri Apr 04, 2008 5:09 pm Post subject:

pleased she's been found , perhaps in a while why not suggest to her about getting some counselling espec after the attempted rape , just a thought .

Serenity · Posted: Fri Apr 04, 2008 5:21 pm Post subject:

Great idea Julie, the poor girl needs help from someone.
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Thumper · Posted: Fri Apr 04, 2008 5:49 pm Post subject:

Glad to hear she is OK Steph

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