Losing Someone

Serenity · Posted: Thu Nov 08, 2007 5:43 pm Post subject:

How tragic he died at such a young age

Oh thats not sick at all!!
Thats a lovely thing to do and shows what a caring person you truly are. I think it's wonderful to take him where ever you are, it's like taking your memories along with you

Its great that you've found another soul mate, and it sounds like he is as wonderful as your fist hubby, and for him to share the same ideals as you is really warming. I would keep my hubbies ashes if he were to die before me, and I would sprinkle them in a place I knew I would live my days out at, if not like you I'd keep him safe with me where ever I went

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Amber · Member User Online: Joined: 28 Sep 2007 Posts: 381

Jaydee, you take no notice what so ever what other people think.

each and everyone of us should do what we feel is right for you.

jaydee · Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 4:47 pm Post subject:

Thumper · Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 7:28 pm Post subject:

June I don't think you are sick at all, I think it's really nice what you have done, and at the end of the day it makes you happy, and that's all what counts, I think it's great that you are able to take the planter with you wherever you go, My husbands mum died at 43 from cancer too, and she had always asked to be cremated and she said she didnt care what was done with her ashes, she left it up to my husband and his sister to decide and they both agreed to have them buried at our local cemetery and to have a head stone so there would be a place for people to go if they wanted, but this decision upset the rest of the family as they thought it was going against her wishes, but she just meant she didn't want her body to be buried, but they all seem happy now, it took a while though,

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redhead · Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 7:41 pm Post subject:

Its unfortunate when family disagree where ashes should be placed , my brother went to sea all his life ,because he died so suddenly he never left any wishes , so the family sat down and all decided to bury his ashes at sea ,at the time of his death he was working on the local ferry to the I.O.W.after losing his deep sea job any hows we had permission to bury him at sea ,and we look at it that he's still sailing the great oceans . we have a chosen place at the crematorium by the stream where we go and lay flowers and chat .
HAPPY SAILINGS BRO MISS YOU

Amber · Member User Online: Joined: 28 Sep 2007 Posts: 381

we sure do miss you ,but you come now and have little chats which is great,

You obviously know what i'm going through as you visited me last nite, when i couldn't sleep again.

I have taken on board what you told me , such wonderful words and made me really think.thanks love you xxxx

Dreama · CC&S User Online: Joined: 09 Jan 2008 Posts: 349

i lost my husband 4 years ago in march, but we had seperated 2 years before. spookily, we seperated on 27th march 2002, and he died 27th march 2004 in a car accident. At the time i felt like a fraud grieving for him as we were seperated but i was his widow as we hadn't divorced, and i really did feel like i'd lost my husband and grieved for him as such, and still do. I still can't believe he isn't here and if i think about it too deeply i still feel as gutted as the day he died. But thankfully that isn't as often now, life does move on and my children have adjusted really well, which i think depends on how you, as the parent deal with it aswell. There is a lot of bitterness from his family towards me which won't be healed so unfortunately the children don't have that link with their father.

Serenity · Posted: Fri Jan 11, 2008 8:45 am Post subject:

You've such a level head Shell and thats a blessing for your kids state of mind

It's a shame that his family are how they are, but at least you and your kids have your own memories of him. Memories that can't be twisted or poisoned by anyone, and to not have contact with them is certainly their loss!..... I can't believe it was 4 years back it doesn't seem that long ago

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Amber · Member User Online: Joined: 28 Sep 2007 Posts: 381

I understand the feeling of the kids missing out on there dad's side. my bros kids have had no contact with our family since he passsed there choice not ours . we have not seen them for 10yrs now which is a shamre as at one time they were always round,, my parents are now grt granparents to 5 babies we have never seen. it is sad that when a person passes families seem to split up.

chibi_steph18 · Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 5:42 pm Post subject:

Well, she didn't die, but my sister tried to commit suicide the year before last, she overdosed on some prescription meds.

My mom was freaking out and she and my stepdad took her to the hospital and got her stomach pumped to get it out of her system. I was left at home with my brother and a little boy who was spending the night with us (we were watching him for his parents). I don't like to cry, so I try to not do so...ever. But I pretty much lost it, and all I could do was call that one person that I could tell anything to, and pour my heart out..It was a rough time.

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