Depression

redhead · Posted: Fri Nov 02, 2007 10:23 pm Post subject:

my heart goes out to you Wozza you have been through so much and to be on tabs for 7yrs I sometimes think its easier to give out tabs ,when what is really needed is for someone to listen to you .

I'm a lot better now ,to busy working so don't have time to dwell on issues , my real concern these days is the fact my parents are in there late70s and when their time comes how will I cope ,will I go back to that black endless hole again , will I be stronger , I have a close relationship with my parents seeing them 2/3 times a week or on the phone , they have both been so ill lately I get knots in my stomach every time the phone rings late in the evening sometimes quite irrational but the thought is there now days .

hope you have new set of friends who are genuine and there for you .

thanks to everyone for your kind words and love it 'S GREAT

Serenity · Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 6:41 am Post subject:

((((((((trace)))))))))) I'm so glad you found peace in your life and things are better for you. I can sympathise totally, having suffered from post natal depression too. I battled with myself for months after the birth of my first son. I thought I was Superwoman, strived for a spotless baby and a spotless house, and had to have everything perfect. Tea had to be on the table exact time each day, and If not I'd get myself in a state. I used to wake in the night searching the bed for my baby, who was asleep in his moses basket beside me. It was terryfying! I started catastrophising, thinking things like, what if I trip over with my baby and drop him and he dies, really odd thoughts like that.

I had to call the doctor out one night to my baby who was poorly, and luckily the doc picked up on my depression and asked me to come see him in surgery the next day. I did, we talked, and I went on Prozac. Which he assured me is non addictive. It did help. But over the years as I'd come off, I would slip down again, and go back on them. It didn't help I'd had constant chronic back pain since the birth of my son. Like you Trace, I was on and off them for years, over 10. I did go to see a stress counsellor too, who really helped put things into perspective. What would happen if tea wasn't on the table at a certain time? NOTHING lol!! We'd just eat later, it DIDN'T matter!! In the end I took myself off of the anti depressants, and I've learned to deal with things differently

I also got my back fixed!! Which helped no end. I still have cranky days, and I always worry too much but thats in my genetic make up, I can't change that. The S.A.D I can cope with using my light box, so thats not a real problem either.

I think we all need a pat on our backs and a group hug!! ((((((((((((Friends))))))))))))) xxxxxx
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wozza · Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 9:34 am Post subject:

Thanks Serenity and Red i know what you mean about your parents
My Mom died when i was seven too young to really deal with that and what that meant but over the last 7 years my dad and i have become as close as we were when i was small before the dreaded step mom.He lives 9 doors up the road and although i dont see him every day he just wanders down for a coffee whenever he fancies it he even uses my house to hide in when all the little grand kids call and it's getting too noisy for him lol i often come home from work to find him dosing on the setee with the tv on full blast ( cost he is going deaf which he wont admit lol)
But it does terrify me that i won't cope when he goes.I'm the one they all turn too for support even my elder brother and sister and even my step brother. But when dad goes i just cant even think about it. But i just hope it's not for a long time in fact i keep telling him it's only the good that die young so he's here till we have all gone cos he's a bugger lol
Thanks for the hugs and i agree we all need a great big pat on the back for getting through it and heres to none of us ever going back there

Selious5 · Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 10:08 pm Post subject:

I have never suffered from depression but to those here on the board posting let me just say how much I admire your strength and will power of not only coping with this but also with in some cases young ones.

((((HUGS))))

and loads of love

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redhead · Posted: Fri Feb 01, 2008 6:38 pm Post subject:

Oh sod it

I can't hide it any more I feel the black hole creeping up on me , took a week of work coz I was getting so stressed out everything is caving in , going wrong try hard to shake it of havve a laugh ( postings ) but it's still there lurking in the background , niggling away like an annoying little b.......... right that's enough get back to norm

Serenity · Posted: Sat Feb 02, 2008 7:41 am Post subject:

(((((((((((((((((Julie))))))))))))))))) you might be suffering from S.A.D hunni, the end of January is the worst for a lot of people including me! Xmas is long back, spring seems a way off yet, and there doesn't seem much to look forward to, add that with dark sunless days and it makes you feel really blue

. Keep hanging in there !!! and I would seriously suggest, if you get some free pennies, to invest in a 'light box'. All you have to do is turn it on and put it beside you for 30-45 mins per day, I used to put it on while I sat and ate my brekkie in the mornings, and it really boosts your mood. My mum borrowed mine just after Xmas as her mood went blue, and she says its worked wonders for her too like it did me

Make sure you're taking enough time out for yourself too, with lots of pampering, and if the weathers not too bad, a good brisk daily walk gets the endorphins going and can lift your mood

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Thumper · Posted: Sat Feb 02, 2008 8:08 am Post subject:

(((((Julie))))). Try to stay positive and busy. And I agree with Deb about the light box, it did work for our Mum, she was a lot brighter after using it.

remember we are all here for you

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redhead · Posted: Sat Feb 02, 2008 2:30 pm Post subject:

Thanks guys will look into the light box , where do you get them ?

Amber · Member User Online: Joined: 28 Sep 2007 Posts: 381

DON'T GO THERE!!!! You know where to come, and i have noticed---
I know the reason and it will be sorted , however you really must talk to parents. They are both on the mend with the latest lot of probs, and there be around for a long time yet, no worries..

Dont you dare go back ,think of the future you will be ok . I promise. ((((hugs))) dont start bubblin

redhead · Posted: Sat Feb 02, 2008 6:59 pm Post subject: