If only the bullies realised how badly they can effect people into adulthood ! grr I have confidence issues still, but most of those stem from how my father was to me as a child. Although I put a very good front on lol ! _________________
Sadly bullying goes back a long way !!!!! except no-body would believe it years ago , many moons ago my sis and I joined a new senior school half way through the term (house move) almost from the start 2 girls took an instant dislike to us coz we moved from across the water like 10miles away!!!!! first sis started getting bullied than me very clever the bullies were to your face all chatty etc but once not with your friends would start with the cruel name calling then moving on to physical, tripping up, pushing etc we got dentention once because they went to the head and reported us for stealing (never stole) but the 2 were prefects so they were believed we held our heads high and took the detention , they would follow us home from school , so mum gave us bus fare to aviod them the bus stopped right outside the school .I rem we were shopping in the local high street and the 2 bullies were ther and started on us but unknown to them our mum was there heard what they said and had a right go at them the bullying stopped for a while then started again but this time they picked on us and our friemds same old thing name calling etc , on Friday nights we used to go to a local youth club and who should join the bullies we were sat out on the low wall chatting and they came over and punched my sis full on in the face , that was it I stood on the wall and hit back next minute there was a right old punch up ,they came of worse got banned from the club and the club organiser spoke to there parents after that the bulling stopped and they tried to be friends (the nerve )
I don't by any means approve of fighting but sometimes you have to stick up for yourselves because some ppl are just so stupid and don't know when to stop ., from that day on I have never let anyone get the better of me and will stand up to ppl usually shaking in me boots haha sis on the other hand lost all her confidence and used to sink into the background .
When my daughter started senior school she was bullied ,we had a chat how to handle it without fighting and thankfully nothing came of it . I have always told my kids to stick up for themselves as bully's pick on those that are to them easy targets .
confidence hit me real hard, still does at my age,
Anyhow my son who i posted about being bullied has me proud yet again.
He goes to cadets and is now a tall lad he was sooooooo tiny for his age , he is now 17yrs, they have some new recruits just started and one of the lad's is tiny for his age, he was being picked on by one of the bigger lads' my son intervened and told the bully to leave him alone or he would have him to deal with. My son said I aint havin it, it is the worst thing ever to be picked on, i it had all my school life and nearly killed myself. to which this bully apoligised to the lad and said he never realised what it does to people.
My son has now taken the short lad under his wing and said you have any problems you come to me.
My son isn't voilent ---he now has a great way with words. proud mum
Oh Julie, it sounds like you and Angie had the same school days as me, bloody awful at the hands of bullies. Was great that you finally stood up to them, that's all it takes , if you can manage to do it, well done to you.
And aww Angie, I'd be proud too! Well done to your son, and I bet the little lad is well chuffed! _________________
Its really horrible because the schools seem to do very little about the matter. In fact its as though they dont care and dont have a clue whats going on right under their nose. Like I said I was scared to tell anyone cus I felt like it would have made the sitchuation worse and it would have given them more ammo. I nearly failed all my exams because of bullying.
before i figured out now to get my favourite pages to come up automatically (6 months ago), i was addicted to myspace.
so i googled myspace.
i read one thing that came up;
it was a teenage girl in the UK, she met a 'good looking' lad on the site, they swapped several messages, then he turned nasty!!... & people kept posting direct attacks on the girl on her page, on forums, etc.
anyway, turned out the boy wasn't really messaging her, it was her former best friend!! (all together now; "bi-atch!")
the conned girl was devastated & killed herself!!!!!
i know teens can be especially cruel at times & not being sexist, but i think girls are worse than boys, as they tend to mentally bully each other, whereas us lads usually get physical.
the story's probably still on net if anyone wanted to search it.... _________________ "make a house a home"
I'm with you on that too Skips, I think girls are far worse. I've have a few friends whose kids have been cyber bullied, and it must be hard. But to be honest, If one of mine were being bullied, I'd turn the friggin PC off, I know you shouldn't let bullies spoil your fun, but take yourself out of the cycle and there is nothing they can say that will get to you, if you're not online to read it. Ok so my methods probably aren't right, but I'm sure it'd work.
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